Women
are vital to the very existance of all humans. After all, men
are born from women, not the other way around. Allah the Majestic
tells us in the Quran that He has created both men and women,
all from a single person, Adam, peace be upon him. From Adam,
Allah created his mate (Eve) and from these two Allah brought
forth many men and many women.
Allah
also tells us he created us all from a single soul and from
him, brought forth his mate and from these two He created many
tribes and nations and made us all different so that we might
recognize one another.
Wives in Islam
are considered mates to their "other half." The prophet
Muhammad, peace be upon him, taught his followers to get married
and fulfill and complete the "other half" of their
religion or way of life. Marriage is considered a complimenting
of two halves to each other in Islam. These teachings seemed
strange to the revealing attitude toward women at that time.
At a time when
the rest of the world, from Greece and Rome to India and China,
considered women as no better than children or even slaves,
with no rights whatsoever, Islam acknowledged women's equality
with men in a great many respects. The Quran states:
"And
among His signs is this: that He created mates for you from yourselves
that you may find rest and peace of mind in them, and He ordained
between you love and mercy. Certainly, herein indeed are signs
for people who reflect."
[30:21]
Prophet
Muhammad said:
"The
most perfect in faith amongst believers is he who is best in manners
and kindest to his wife." [Source: “Sunnan” of
Abu Dawud]
Muslims
believe that Adam and Eve were created from the same soul. Both
were equally guilty of their sin and fall from grace, and Allah
forgave both. Many women in Islam have had high status; consider
the fact that the first person to convert to Islam was Khadijah,
the wife of Muhammad, whom he both loved and respected. His favorite
wife after Khadijah's death, Ayesha, became renowned as a scholar
and one of the greatest sources of Hadith literature. Many of
the female Companions accomplished great deeds and achieved fame,
and throughout Islamic history there have been famous and influential
scholars and jurists.
We
might also mention that while many in the West criticize Islam
with regard to the treatment of women, in fact a number of Muslim
countries have had women rulers and presidents. To name a few:
Turkey; Bangladesh and Pakistan.
With
regard to education, both women and men have the same rights and
obligations. This is clear in Prophet Muhammad's saying:
"Seeking
knowledge is mandatory for every believer." [hadeeth
(saying of Muhammad, peace be upon him, collected by Ibn Majah]
This implies men and women.
A
woman is to be treated as God has endowed her, with rights, such
as to be treated as an individual, with the right to own and dispose
of her own property and earnings, enter into contracts, even after
marriage. She has the right to be educated and to work outside
the home if she so chooses. She has the right to inherit from
her father, mother, and husband. A very interesting point to note
is that in Islam, unlike any other religion, a woman can be an
imam, a leader of communal prayer, for a group of women.
A
Muslim woman also has obligations. All the laws and regulations
pertaining to prayer, fasting, charity, pilgrimage, doing good
deeds, etc., apply to women, albeit with minor differences having
mainly to do with female physiology.
Before
marriage, a woman has the right to choose her husband. Islamic
law is very strict regarding the necessity of having the woman's
consent for marriage. The groom gives a marriage dowry to the
bride for her own personal use. She keeps her own family name,
rather than taking her husband's. As a wife, a woman has the right
to be supported by her husband even if she is already rich. She
also has the right to seek divorce and custody of young children.
She does not return the dowry, except in a few unusual situations.
Despite
the fact that in many places and times some Muslims have not always
adhered to all or even many of the foregoing in practice, the
ideal has been there for 1,400 years, while virtually all other
major civilizations did not begin to address these issues or change
their negative attitudes until the 19th and 20th centuries, and
there are still many contemporary civilizations which have yet
to do so.
The
prophet, peace be upon him, ordered his companions never to mistreat
their wives. He scolded them and admonished them, saying "How
could you treat them like animals in the day and then want to
be intimate with them at night."
Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said it all in a simple sentence,
"The best of you are the best to their wives; and I am the
best to my wives." |