"It
is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger
have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their
decision."
Quran [33:36]
Question
(Dated): 2003-re:
People lying against the innocent ladies.
What to do?
Also: What about
famous people who insult Islam (and not so famous people), what
can we do?
Bismillah
Rahman Raheem
Thank you for
writing and for your question. First let us begin by reminding
ourselves of our reason and purpose for being here on this earth,
with Basics Of Islam [click].
Here are some
important points to keep in mind:
1. As Muslims
we cannot lie about anything, especially about our religion.
For sure it is haram to lie about anything. When a person lies
about the honor of a woman, they are destroying themselves with
Allah. This is something that is mentioned in surah An-Nur,
when people began to say horrible things against Ayesha, may
Allah be please with her.
2. We are very
blessed by Allah to have the full and complete revelation for
all times and all people. Unlike the other religions that have
lost or corrupted their books and teachings, we Muslims still
have original recorded sources of our religion:
A) The Quran
[click]
B) Teachings of Muhammad [click]
This is a unique
part of Islam, not available for any other people, except Muslims,
Al Hamdulilah.
Sometimes we
find that people are claiming to be Muslims, but at the same
time, they are not showing it in their actions. So, what can
we do?
Our job is to
always worship and adore our creator and sustainer, Allah. He
is the only One that we turn to and the only One that we are
trying to please. This what Islam is really all about. The most
important subject is the worship of Almighty God, without any
partners or associates or "gods" besides Almighty
God.
Let all of this
come into your mind when you are considering what is going on
around you. This is a test from Allah and He wants you to deal
with it in the very best way. That is why is allowing you to
experience this.
Ask yourself
a question, "Are there people who are in worse condition
than you?" (Answer is, "Yes.") Would you want
to trade places with the Muslims in Afghanistan or Iraq? Consider
how they have lost their loved ones forever and they do not
have enough food to eat and some do not even have clean drinking
water. How can we have so much and worry so much at the same
time?
Another thing
is that when ever people talk against you, if you are patient
and forgive them, then you will be in the Jennah, inshallah.
Also, if you feel that this is bad against you and that it is
"Thulum" (oppression) than you can make dua to Allah
and ask Him to grant your requests. As long as you are being
oppressed and raising your hands to Allah, you are getting what
you are asking for. Al Hamdulilah.
A serious problem
is happening in all of the Muslim countries that I visit around
the world. Men and women are not getting married at young ages
as they are supposed to according to Islam. The people do not
want their children to get married because they want them to
complete college, university or some special area of education.
The boys and girls have nothing to look forward to until they
are in their twenties and this is not Islam.
The prophet,
peace be upon him, told us that as soon as a boy and a girl
are old enough, then they should get married. Young marriages
help build a strong community. Waiting for marriage can destroy
a community, as you can see for yourself.
Sometimes the
'mahr' (dowry) is so high that no one can afford to pay and
then if the girl is willing to forget about any large amount
of money, her father is not. The problem becomes a sort of combination
between money and honor or pride.
When boys can
not satisfy their feelings they will start to do anything to
try to get a girl and the girls who are lonely will fall for
their tricks. Some girls will just do it anyway and not care
and others will even charge money for this.
And keep in mind
that the whole problem is due to the fact that the youth are
not getting married young as they should.
Consider this,
if people who simply follow the Quran and teachings of Muhammad,
peace be upon him, they might very likely slow down or in some
instances, even stop some very horrible things that are destroying
our life here on earth. Prostitution would loose business, magazines
wiht half-naked girls would not sold, alcohol would not be so
popular and drugs would not be taking over our children's lives.
Following Islam
the way it should be followed would protect our women, our children
and our honor. People could be together in the halal way by
being married. And that is how it should be, inshallah.
You should stay
away from people who are lying about you (or lying about anything).
Stay totally away from these kinds of people and don't spread
their stories to others. They are in trouble with Allah and
He will punish them for what they are doing. Don't worry about
that.
Your job is hard,
you have to pray for them and remember not to do the same thing
to someone else, inshallah.
Now, let us look
to the Speech of Allah in the Holy Quran and read the beautiful
words as Allah defends the innocent and deals harshly with the
guilty who are lying against her. Read . . .