| A convesation for
Muslim sisters:
"I'm so tired."
"Tired of what?"
"Of all these people judging
me."
"Who judged you?"
"Like that woman, every time
I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab."
"Oh, hijab and music!
The mother of all topics!"
"Yeah! I listen to music without
hijab…haha!"
"Maybe she was just
giving you advice."
"I don't need her advice. I
know my religion. Can`t she mind her own
business?"
"Maybe you misunderstood.
She was just being nice."
"Keeping out of my business,
that would be nice..."
"But it's her duty
to encourage you do to good."
"Trust me. That was no encouragement.
And what do you mean `good` ?"
"Well, wearing hijab,
that would be a good thing to do."
"Says who?"
"It's in the Qur'an,
isn't it?"
"Yes. She did quote me something."
"She said Surah
Nur, and other places of the Qur'an."
"Yes, but it's not a big sin
anyway. Helping people and praying is more
important."
"True. But big things
start with small things."
"That's a good point, but what
you wear is not important. What's important
is to have a good healthy heart."
"What you wear is
not important?"
"That's what I said."
"Then why do you
spend an hour every morning fixing up?"
"What do you mean?"
"You spend money
on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on
fixing your hair and low-carb dieting."
"So?"
"So, your appearance
IS important."
"No. I said wearing hijab is
not an important thing in religion."
"If it's not an
important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Holy
Qur'an?"
"You know I can't follow all
that's in Qur'an."
"You mean God tells
you something to do, you disobey and then it's OK?"
"Yes. God is forgiving."
"God is forgiving
to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes."
"Says who?"
"Says the same book
that tells you to cover."
"But I don't like hijab, it
limits my freedom."
"But the lotions,
lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?!
What`s your definition of freedom anyway?"
"Freedom is in doing whatever
you like to do."
"No. Freedom is
in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do."
"Look! I've seen so many people
who don't wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear
hijab and are bad people."
"So what? There
are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all
be alcoholics? You made a stupid point."
"I don't want to be an extremist
or a fanatic. I'm OK the way I am without hijab."
"Then you are a
secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God."
"You don't get it, if I wear
hijab, who would marry me?!"
"So all these people
with hijab never get married?!"
"Okay! What if I get married
and my husband doesn't like it? And wants me to remove it?"
"What if your husband
wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!"
"That's irrelevant, bank robbery
is a crime."
"Disobeying your
Creator is not a crime?"
"But then who would hire me?"
"A company that
respects people for who they are."
"Not after 9-11"
"Yes. After 9-11.
Don't you know about Hanan who just got into med school?
And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore
a white hijab…ummm…"
"Yasmeen?"
"Yes. Yasmeen. She
just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE."
"Why do you reduce religion
to a piece of cloth anyway?"
"Why do you reduce
womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?"
"You didn't answer my question."
"In fact, I did.
Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult
environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood.
But your short sleeves, tight pants…"
"That's called `fashion`, you
live in a cave or
something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to
control
women."
"Really? I did not
know men could control women by hijab."
"Yes. That's what it is."
"What about the
women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France
who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about
that?"
"Well, that's different."
"What difference?
The woman who asked you to wear hijab…she was a woman, right?"
"Right, but…"
"But fashions that
are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set
you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them
as a commodity?! Give me a break!"
"Wait, let me finish, I was
saying…"
"Saying what? You
think that men control women by hijab?"
"Yes."
"Specifically how?"
"By telling women how and what
to wear, dummy!"
"Doesn't TV, magazines
and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be `attractive'?"
"Of course, it's fashion."
"Isn't that control?
Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?"
[Silence]
"Not just controlling
you, but also controlling the market."
"What do you mean?"
"I mean, you are
told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover
of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those
products."
"I don't get it. What does hijab
have to do with products."
"It has everything
to do with that. Don't you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism,
women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by
standards of fashion designed by men…and then here is Islam,
saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on
your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks."
"Like I don't have to buy hijab?
Isn't hijab a product?"
"Yes, it is. It
is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism."
"Stop lecturing me! I
WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB!
It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society
... Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!"
"Fine. Say that
to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day."
"Fine."
"Fine."
[Silence]
"Shut up and I don't want to
hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab!"
[Silence]
She stared at the mirror,
tired of arguing with herself all this time.
Successful enough, she managed to
shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant
in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted
by the society - but rejected by the Faith:
"Yes!"
- to curls on the hair - "No!" - to hijab!
"And he
(/she) is indeed a failure who corrupts it [the soul]!"
[Holy Quran
91:10]
Subhana'Allah!!!
"Nay! You
prefer the life of this world; While the hereafter is better and
more lasting."
[Holy Quran:
87:16-17]
"You are the best
community (Ummah) raised up for (the benefit of) humanity; enjoining
what is right and forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah."
[Holy Quran:
3:110]
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